When A Man Loves A Woman

Good morning, ladies!

This week we’ll be talking about when a godly man only has eyes for his wife.

1. He’s attentive and pursues his woman

Ladies, it is not our job to do the pursuing, it’s the man’s job. It’s an act of chivalry for the man to go after the woman. We just need to be available and friendly.

I’m not saying that we need to play super “hard to get,” but just like Christ loved and pursued the church, so should a gentleman pursue his lady.

So, what does it look like when a gentleman actively pursues his lady? For me, I love talking or spending quality time with the people I love. When a guy pursues his girl, he makes time for her, talks to her, and prays for her.

“Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity, and honor.” Proverbs 21:21

2. He’s faithful and loyal

In Ruth 1:16 it says, “But Ruth replied, ‘Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.’” Ruth left everything familiar and comfortable because she loved her mother-in-law. Just as we godly women are faithful to our husbands, so are our godly husbands faithful to us.

We want our husbands to stay loyal to us, right? Both in the small and big things. Proverbs 20:6 says, “Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?”

In our world today, it’s difficult to find someone who is loyal to only one person in a relationship. They might still be looking or have their online dating profile up “just in case.” Our society constantly shoves living together before marriage, sleeping around, and cheating at us.

But God’s Word says, “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart” (Proverbs 3:3). If our men are men of God, they know and practice faithfulness and loyalty. Our men will love us so much because they love God more.

“Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?” Proverbs 5:20

3. He’s gentle, yet passionate

Imagine a man so in love with a gift God gave him that he holds it with tender care. Like holding a newborn baby, so fragile, yet the father loves it deeply.

Philippians 4:5 says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.” Men are strong creatures, and that’s okay, but godly men are also gentle and tender. I’m not saying they have to be as emotional as women — that would be weird — but patient and loving when their wives need them to be (Proverbs 15:1).

Same with our bodies. Sex can be a scary thought, especially if our men aren’t respectful, but it’s meant to be holy. 1 Corinthians 7:4 states, “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” When we get married, our bodies are in submission to our spouse. That doesn’t mean we’re slaves, but that we’re passionately in love with our spouses physically.

I want my husband to be passionately in love with my mind, heart, and body, but be so passionately in love that he treats my mind, heart, and body with a holy care. On our wedding night, I want him to take things slow and a gentle yet passionate husband will do that.

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12

4. He’s my best friend.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

I want to laugh, dance, sing, cry, make weird jokes, and spend quality time with my future husband. I do all of that with my friends already. If there isn’t a friendship in marriage, how strong can the “cord” be?

“As iron sharpens iron, so does one friend sharpen another (Proverbs 27:17). Great friends strengthen one another and if we’re married to someone who doesn’t strengthen us, how effective is that relationship?

We don’t want to be in a marriage that’s all sex, kids, work, and “me time.” A friendship between husband and wife brings unity. An unreliable friendship can hurt us (Proverbs 18:24).

“Elijah said to Elisha, ‘Stay here; the Lord has sent me to Bethel.’ But Elisha said, ‘As surely as the Lord lives and as you live, I will not leave you.’ So they went down to Bethel.” 2 Kings 2:2

Heavenly Father,

Help us to wait for godly men who are attentive, loyal, gentle, and are our best friends. Give us strength and courage to wait patiently and in expectation.

God bless,

M.A.